By Cari Cole
What we think, and what we believe influences every cell in our body. Just ask Bruce Lipton, MD cutting-edge neuroscientist who says that all of our cells respond to our thoughts (read his book Biology of Belief for recent discoveries on this subject).
So here’s the thing, don’t even think twice. You are not a victim of your past, you are a victim of your thoughts. It’s not what happened that’s the problem, it’s what keeps happening. Ready to hit delete on these troublemaker attitudes that keep you imprisoned in your own psyche and poison your musician mindset? Check. One year from now you’ll be shocked at how far you’ve come. Promise.
Here are the 10 Musician Mindsets You Should Delete From Your Cellular Memory
1. “I don’t have enough money”.
Not many indie musicians have a ton of cash lying around. Not really. Especially starting out. But reiterating that you don’t have any money or resources over and over again, programs your psyche to expect that situation to continue. Create your exceptional work, distribute your music, grow your list the organic way without spending a dime (social media people), keep putting one foot in front of the other and you’ll get there. Everyone else did. It takes fortitude and a STRONG MINDSET, not money to pave your way.
2. “I’m in the wrong town”.
Not anymore. You can build your career from anywhere. You might consider a move once things are in full swing, but you don’t have to be at the center of it all for things to happen. I just coached an artist in Austin who landed a big licensing deal from our work together – love it! ;).
3. “I don’t have the right connections”.
Well, you might not have them right now, but don’t hold that mantra in your brain for another second. It won’t do you or your musician mindset one bit of good. You can change anything you don’t like with a little time and attention. Make a plan to go find the people you WANT to meet.
4. “I need help”.
All indie artists could use some help, but instead of complaining about it – go get it! Rephrase that to “I will look for help”. Feel the difference? So should your brain. If you tell it you “need” something, you program it for desperation and victimhood. Instead, program it to feel your own value and worth so that you are attractive to yourself and consequently to opportunities – like a magnet baby!
5. “Maybe I don’t deserve it”.
Now that’s just plain not true. Everyone deserves success. But if you’re telling yourself this, you probably don’t believe it you need to work on your mindset. Ask yourself why? And then make a plan to fix that little part of yourself. If you need to become a better musician or work on your people skills then make a plan to improve. You can do it. In a year you’ll thank yourself profoundly.
6. “I don’t want to ask people for help”.
Ever run a Crowdfunding Campaign or a Patreon page? Then you KNOW the power of the “ask”. You have to go out there and ask for it – everyone does. But do it with class, with heart — and make it exciting for people (not just your boring sales pitch!) – and you’ll find success. But never stop asking.
7. “I’m not good enough”.
If you’re asking that question, you’re either suffering from low thyroid or adrenal fatigue or you have a poor self-image that’s most likely not your fault (that stuff is put on ya, not inherent). Work on either shifting your musician mindset or on bumping up your self-image. Get new pics or work with a stylist. You’d be surprised what that will do to shine up your “good enough” shoes.
8. “I’m not as successful as other people”.
Don’t give me that malarkey! I’m part “Mickey” ya know. Now you’re just beating on yourself! And I won’t hear of it. I mean I get it, I pull that one on myself too sometimes (can you believe it? wth?). But —- I slap myself on the shoulder and snap myself right on out of it in a flash. First of all, it’s a lie you’re “telling” yourself. Second, it’s not fair to you. Hit delete.
9. “The grass is greener on the other side of the street”.
You know it always seems greener on the other side of the street. It just looks greener from the other side of the street, but it’s got its own share of pests. Don’t buy it!
10. “Other people have all the luck”.
You know those stories you hear all the time of successful people who came from nothing and out of nowhere and became successful? Well, fill your thoughts with those stories, ‘cause they’re real. You need to think of them happening to you – and watch the magic in your life! Watch Jared Leto’s Oscar Acceptance Speech to remind you.
Share with me in the comments below what you’ve ditched this year that’s made a difference in your mindset!!